I want. I want. I want…. but I’m not or I don’t have.
Of course it’s exciting to lean into these desires, and these are all perfectly good things to want and create. The problem isn’t the wanting. It’s the emotional anchor underneath the wanting. We wanna look at that.
The one thing we all need to stop doing in 2017 to be successful as our True Selves is to give up Perfectionism, and the key to that is understanding why we pursue it in the first place.
If you want to help someone, don’t spout spiritual platitudes at them like “just be in the now”. Show up and listen with genuine empathy and unconditional love. Share your own vulnerabilities so they know they’re not alone. We cannot “fix” or heal people.
I think of my body as a fun vehicle I’ve been given to experience my life with. I imagine myself as a Kia Soul, unique and quirky but practical and useful, a little slow to get up to speed but dependable once I get going. And I remember from when I had my own (actual) car that if I don’t change the oil, get it rustproofed, wash it and take loving care of it, the car begins dragging and breaking down. It gets old before its time. It can support me only as long as I support it.
Quick. I’m sure you’re annoyed about something or someone right now. Because…human. :)
So what do you think you need to feel better about yourself or your life in relation to this situation?
Now ask yourself:
And what will that give me (that I don’t have now)?
It was one of the greatest nights of my life.
One hundred people mingled together in the small room I had booked next to a large music venue.
As an introvert who has always loved helping to create a sense of community for people (but rarely do because I truly border on reclusive), knowing that I had brought all these people together and that they were now connecting, talking and laughing thrilled me. But the best part? They had all come to listen to me read from my newly launched book Help Me, Asia: Five Countries, One Mission, Learn How to Be Happy–the writing of which had been a trying, 10-year labour of love.
As Mike Dooley famously says “thoughts are things”. Words have power. They create. Here’s what happened to me when I forgot about that.
I used to wake up every day wanting to die.
Not all of me wanted that. There were parts of me that wanted to live large, travel the world, be an entrepreneur, inspire others and make a real difference as a writer, teacher, philanthropist and all-round shift-disturber, starting and supporting projects that make the world better.
But this one loud and persistent part of me wanted nothing to do with any of that. It just wanted to die.
Ugh.
That’s the feeling when you know there’s something you want to do, but you’re not doing it.
I know it well.
But why aren’t you (we?) doing it?
Well, duh. Fear of failure, right? Isn’t that the bogeyman in the closet that keeps all us adults awake at night?
Sometimes. But that’s usually just a cover for the real fear.
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