I want. I want. I want…. but I’m not or I don’t have.
Of course it’s exciting to lean into these desires, and these are all perfectly good things to want and create. The problem isn’t the wanting. It’s the emotional anchor underneath the wanting. We wanna look at that.
A lot of people secretly think their life would be boring without drama. So even though they say they hate it, they subconsciously create, attract and feed it. What if you had nothing or no one to bitch at or about? No one to look down on or make fun of or gossip...
The one thing we all need to stop doing in 2017 to be successful as our True Selves is to give up Perfectionism, and the key to that is understanding why we pursue it in the first place.
If you want to help someone, don’t spout spiritual platitudes at them like “just be in the now”. Show up and listen with genuine empathy and unconditional love. Share your own vulnerabilities so they know they’re not alone. We cannot “fix” or heal people.
I think of my body as a fun vehicle I’ve been given to experience my life with. I imagine myself as a Kia Soul, unique and quirky but practical and useful, a little slow to get up to speed but dependable once I get going. And I remember from when I had my own (actual) car that if I don’t change the oil, get it rustproofed, wash it and take loving care of it, the car begins dragging and breaking down. It gets old before its time. It can support me only as long as I support it.
Quick. I’m sure you’re annoyed about something or someone right now. Because…human. :)
So what do you think you need to feel better about yourself or your life in relation to this situation?
Now ask yourself:
And what will that give me (that I don’t have now)?