by Shawn Phelps | Jan 22, 2022 | Find Your Purpose, Tools for Transformation
As Rumi wrote: “If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?”
But, honestly, and no offence meant to Rumi, I think it’s human to feel irritated by this process. Let’s be real. It’s not fun being sanded, shaped and polished. It’s not fun facing all our fears and pain and parts of us we don’t yet know how to meet with love.
by Shawn Phelps | Jan 29, 2016 | Build Self Trust & Self Love
Self love (and, by extension, self trust) is hard.
It’s hard to talk about, because we’ve been taught that it’s either airy fairy or it’s selfish.
It’s hard to do, because our culture barely talks about or openly practices it, so we don’t even know what it looks or feels like.
by Shawn Phelps | Jul 3, 2015 | End Self Sabotage, Love & Relationships, Tools for Transformation
You wake up and…what’s that? A vaguely uncomfortable (or, perhaps, distinctly awful) feeling that you immediately want to get rid of.
No worries. You drown it with coffee, maybe even distract yourself with mantra meditations but, a few hours later, you notice it’s still there. You tell yourself you’re just bored, or restless. Maybe you need a “new” thing: a lover, job, hobby, TV series, iPhone.
by Shawn Phelps | Jun 25, 2015 | End Self Sabotage, Love & Relationships, Tools for Transformation
It’s frustrating. You want something from someone and they’re not giving it to you. You want respect, love, attention, time, something. But you aren’t getting it.
How do you get your needs met without wigging out?
by Shawn Phelps | Jun 19, 2015 | End Self Sabotage, Tools for Transformation, True & False Self
When we believe a thought that isn’t true, it causes us pain. Here’s why.